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Nature and Nurture

handbags 023I’ve been wanting to do this post for a while now.  Mother’s Day Weekend seems like the perfect time…………

Some of my blog friends may have noticed that when I leave a comment on their blogs, my email address is listed as “lostnfound”.  There is actually a story behind that, and I thought I would share a bit of it.

I was adopted as an infant at 8 weeks old.  I don’t remember the moment I was told about being adopted, it feels like I have always known.  It was always presented as something rather special, and I feel that I was blessed to be raised by two very wonderful and loving parents.  From my adopted mom I gained a love of textiles and sewing, while through my adopted father I developed an appreciation and love of history and literature. If there was an emptiness in knowing my own history, it was more than compensated by the love I felt from those who raised me.

Move ahead many years, to the time when I was now a mother myself.  There are really no words to explain how it felt to have that sort of connection with another human being – having someone in my life who was truly a part of me – physically as well as emotionally.   I began to feel the need to fill that hole in my own history, and wanted to be able to share that part of my heritage with my daughter.  And so, I began “THE SEARCH”.

Anyone who is adopted will understand how scary such an undertaking  can be.  The literature out there cautions you not to get your hopes up, tells you to prepare yourself for the worst possible scenario, etc.  I read all the books and took the cautions to heart, yet continued.

Move ahead yet again – at this point I had been “searching” on and off for about 7 years, and had found some decent leads (the Internet is truly a wonderful thing).  However at about this time my adopted father and shortly after my adopted mother both became gravely ill.  They passed away within months of each other, leaving me feeling devastated and lost.  I eventually went back to “the search” and felt very strongly that my adopted parents where guiding me from above.handbags 033

My story has one of those fairytale  endings.  I have found my birth mother and we have developed a wonderful relationship.  She and her husband are now an important part of my family’s lives and I count my blessings each and every day that I was gifted with not one but two loving mothers – one who was there to guide my childhood, and one who is there to guide me now.  It is amazing how much I have in common with my birth mother, and it is often commented on how alike we look and how many of our mannerisms are similar.

I created this necklace as a tribute to both my mothers.   Their gifts of unconditional love have  given me the confidence to reach beyond the familiar and explore possibilities.  I love being able to wear it and have them both close to me.handbags 026

The old argument goes Nature or Nurture?  I say it’s both – Nature and Nurture that makes a person who they are. Thank you Donna and Mona for helping me to become the person and mother I am today.  I love you both.handbags 027

15 comments to Nature and Nurture

  • Hi Sue!
    What an absolutely wonderful post! You have truly been blessed beyond measure.

    Have a wonderful weekend,

  • What a lovely story. You’ve made my day. Blessings

  • Oh My….Now I am wipeing the tears to be able to type. What a beautiful post.
    I am glad you wrote to me so that I could find you.
    I may get lost here a bit…
    Happy Mothers Day

  • Pat

    What a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing; everyone in your life must be so proud of you, what a wonderful example you’ve paved for your own children, to share so much love.

  • That is such a touching story! I’m so glad it all worked out for you and both moms!!

  • OK, Sue, now you have me crying my eyes out. What a beautiful story…yet so sad, too. I can’t imagine the devastation of losing both of your parents…and so close together in time. Breaks my heart. But to find your birth mother…what a huge gift! Truly this is a story of the mysterious Divine. I lost my beloved mom when I was eighteen and I think that is forever a part of me…in good and in hard ways. Having a daughter has given me a chance to see a bit of her again…sometimes in a smile, or in Katie’s goofball, yet thoughtful, personality, so much like my mom’s. Thank you for sharing this important story of your life with us. I feel honored. A Happy Mother’s Day to you, lovely woman!

  • Hi Sue:
    Thanks so much for visiting Brynwood and leaving your sweet comment about my magnolia blossom today. I’ll look forward to hearing more from you…and coming back to visit your blog and read about you and your life. This was a wonderful story with a happy ending in your post today. I really enjoyed reading it.
    Have a Happy Mother’s Day!

  • Sue what a wonderful mothers day story. You are truly lucky to have 2 mothers that you are connected with.

  • Hello again, sweet Sue…

    Thank you so much for your unbelievably kind comments on my last post, they truly did touch my heart.

    Wishing you a very Happy Mother’s Day!


  • Sue,
    Happy Mother’s Day to you! Thank you for the lovely post. Julie

  • Hello
    so glad you stopped by for a visit. I am going to Silver Bella this year too. I loved your mothers day story and so glad it had such a wonderful begining to new chapters in your life. Wow what a blessing. Please visit again soon I would love to get to know you better. Oh I so love your beautiful necklace and happy mothers day

  • this is a beautiful story with such a happy ending!

  • Oh, Sue! Love, love, love all adoption stories. Your’s is most special and I remember you sharing your story with me over a yummy meal when we first met at Silver Bella! Hope you had a happy mother’s day. Kris

  • That is truely the best post I have read since I started blogging. (just two weeks into this) and I must say extremely moving. It is so nice to hear good news and life’s moments, and there twists and turns appreciated. So happy for you. I will be back. I love the necklace.

  • Sue, What a small world. I know where Lansing is, but I grew up in Niles. And have family that now lives in Elmwood Park. Silver Bella sounds fabulous. I will look more into it, but not sure if I can swing it this year. Please post lots of pics when you do go. Would love to see/hear more about it.

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